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Sneak Peek Into My Kitchen
(and My Soul)

I was chopping an onion in my kitchen in November when the quiet voice spoke.

“I think I’m happy.”

So quiet. So content. So unobtrusive.

And so what I’d been wanting.

I’d been running a couple of experiments inside myself that no one else knew about or could see.

They were the catalysts that led to the happiness that I also call contentment.

One experiment I called Laying Down Anger, as in “to surrender your weapons.” This experiment entailed me laying down the thoughts and habits that fueled my anger, including the tacit belief that it was my job to let other people know things they were “doing wrong” ... (gross, I know. I know!).

the happiness wheel

Therapist in a Test Tube

The happiness experiments I'm conducting in my life

social skills
Journal Entry No. 2

If She Wants to Get Together (and You Don’t): The Thinking Part

Back to that scenario from Journal Entry No. 1.

“If she wants to get together, let her spend the energy.”

If even employing a neutral tone to that statement sounds terribly rude to someone, I think there’s a likely indication of some co-dependency or over-functioning at play. Cuz it’s a version of taking responsibility for someone else’s wants/desires. With, ahem, you doing the work to get them what they want. read more →

social skills
Social Skills
Journal Entry No. 1

If She Wants to Get Together, Let Her Spend the Energy

I was talking with a friend from out of town last week, who has the exact opposite problem as I do here in SD.

Too many friends.

She didn’t want to spread herself too thin (smart, smart). Plus, she’s an introvert with four kids, with a limited amount of “let’s do coffee” time. read more →


social skills
Article No. 1

An Over-the-Counter Antidepressant from God

Like every other day, today I went on a walk. A predictably enjoyable ritual. Today, however, rather than my normal music, audiobook, podcast, or audio sermon listen, I opted for quietness and reviewing some Bible verses I’d written down on cards and memorized mostly a long time ago.

One oldie but goodie sustained my attention a good mile and a half. An over-the-counter antidepressant from God. read more →