The Happy, Healthy Nurse
The only program designed by a professional counselor with expertise in helping real nurses.
Hi, I’m Tricia Andor. I’m a self-development coach, and I help smart, caring people-pleasers develop guilt-free self-confidence, learn to say "no," and get the time and energy they deserve. Even if they have to be around difficult people or conflict.
As a Licensed Professional Counselor, I know which skills actually work. I’ve hand-picked the best and put them into a training and coaching program for you — The Happy, Healthy Nurse.
You’re a compassionate, hard-working nurse. You love helping people and making a difference in their lives. It’s why you went into nursing!
But let’s face it. You interact with a lot of people, and sometimes have to deal with difficult coworkers, management, or members of your own family.
And there are times when the people-pleasing ways of dealing with them — giving more... working harder…. being nicer —
Just don’t work.
You’re still not listened to. Your hard work isn’t appreciated more. Takers still take. You’re exhausted from trying to make people happy.
Let’s be honest. It takes a toll. After all, working so hard without seeing results can start to feel depressing.
It’s like carrying around a backpack full of rocks:
- We get home from work and spend our “down” time hashing out what we should do about our uncommunicative manager, the gossip queen, or the bad-attitude coworker.
- We’re there for others (loyal to the death!), but find we don’t have the support we need when we’ve got a problem of our own.
- We obsess about how we could’ve said “no” to the rude physician asking a favor.
- We stuff our feelings rather than tell our spouse we feel hurt by something they said.
- We feel bad because we gave in (again!) to our child’s demands.
- We walk around with a knot in our gut anytime we have a disagreement or conflict with someone.
- We keep working harder in a relationship (with someone who’s good at taking), but nothing gets better.
- We’re always feeling guilty. About not doing more. About decisions. About wanting to do anything for ourselves.
Thing is, as great as people-pleasers are, the people-pleasing methods aren’t so great.
Unless we get some new tools for dealing with others and ourselves, we’ll keep experiencing the same thing over and over: being motivated by guilt, not having enough time, feeling anxious any time there’s a conflict.
We see people who can say “no” and who communicate their needs kindly and without guilt -- and we think they were born that way. Calm, cool, and collected.
But what these people have are skills. The exact same skills that you too can learn.
I know, because I’ve been there and I’ve helped hundreds of others who have been there.
“I was constantly questioning myself....”
I checked my phone during a bathroom break at work. My husband had texted ‘Can’t wait for tonight!’ I knew I should text back, ‘Me too!’ but I dreaded the thought of having to go to the circus.
I stared at my phone feeling guilty, and before I left the restroom I texted back, ‘Me too!’ Ug. I love my son, but nothing could have been less appealing that day than going to the circus after work. I was so overwhelmed. But he’d begged, and my happy-go-lucky husband thought it sounded like fun too. So I agreed.
The only thing I wanted to do after work that night was go home, curl up in a blanket, and binge watch Orange Is the New Black.
I was so stressed. A month earlier, I’d transferred to a new unit. Paid more with better hours. It sounded perfect and I was excited for the challenge.
But when I started, things got bad.
My new manager often didn’t do things she said she’d do. I couldn’t go to her for help. It’s like I had to cover for her when she didn’t get stuff done. Her lack of follow through sometimes made me look bad. Total hot mess.
There was also a standoffish nurse who only talked to me when she was gossiping about other nurses I thought she liked. I’d go mute, not knowing how to get out of it. Part of me ate up that she was finally "being nice," but the other part wanted to run for the hills!
Then there was the nurse who was training me. He gave zero positive feedback. His statement was, “I’ll shadow you and tell you what you’re doing wrong.” Which is precisely what he did.
I started feeling anxious — which isn’t me. No matter what’s been going on in my personal life, I’ve always felt competent at work. But now, I was constantly questioning myself. I’d leave exhausted, sometimes depressed. When I got home I just wanted to talk to my friend Michelle about how bad I felt. I kept asking her, “What’s wrong with me?” “Why can’t I just brush this stuff off?”
I guess low self-esteem is my new normal, I figured.
But the weekend after the circus incident everything changed. I was at the mall and ran into Christine, a friend I’d known since nursing school. While we were talking, I could see she wasn’t the people-pleasing Christine I’d always known. This Christine was calm...she knew who she was.
What really stood out was when she said “no” -- casually, like it didn’t even bother her -- when her teenage daughter asked if she could get a new sweater. The Christine I knew couldn’t say no to her kids to save her life!
I couldn’t resist asking what had happened. She told me that she and her husband had been having a hard time communicating with one another, and that she’d taken an online training for people-pleasing nurses. “I’m still a work in progress, believe me! But I’m more relaxed now that I’ve learned how to say no to my kids and stay calm when Bruce and I are in the middle of a disagreement.”
I knew if Christine could do it, I could do it too.
When I got home, I immediately signed up for The Happy, Healthy Nurse.
I started getting my peace of mind back from day one. That first lesson gave me hope... I discovered I had a lot more in my control than I’d realized. The insecurity that had become my “new normal” started to lift when I focused on all the things I could control.
My self-confidence grew with every new skill I learned. I’d watch the weekly video, complete the worksheet, and start practicing the new skill. When I ran into a glitch I’d write it down and talk with Tricia about it during my individual coaching time. She helped me figure out how to put the new skills into practice while feeling comfortable in my skin. She gave me the confidence that I could do it, and I started believing I could too.
Then I’d get more support during the group coaching calls. I loved hearing from other nurses like me who were dealing with the same problems and learning the same things. It’s like we were in the trenches together, cheering each other on! We’d share our successes and failures.
It was a process, but I learned how to stay calm around the nurse trainer who only told me what I was doing wrong. I asked him if he’d be willing to share positives with me (and didn’t come across as needy when I asked). He said no problem, and started adding positives to his feedback.
I learned what to say to the gossip nurse, and she doesn’t try to get me to join her gossip as much now.
I know exactly what to say to my manager when she doesn’t follow through with something I need. I was surprised at how easy it was. I just followed what I learned from the training. She didn’t hate me or fire me. If anything, she seems to respect me more now.
And I now have the skills to “no” to my son and husband, just like I saw my friend Christine do at the mall. I hadn’t known it at the time, but all my automatic “yes”’es had created an atmosphere where I was constantly stressed at home.
I used to spend so much energy avoiding conflict and waiting for the other shoe to drop. But the training gave me the confidence that I can handle anything that comes my way. I accept myself and others more now. I’ve got my energy back, and I’ve got me back.
We too, can learn new skills that get us on track for the life we know we were meant for.
We don’t have to wait for other people to change. We can stop waiting for the other shoe to drop. We can get rid of the negative sides to being a people-pleaser. We just have to learn the right skills.
The Happy, Healthy Nurse
The exclusive program that helps you develop guilt-free self-confidence, learn how to say “no,” and get the time and energy you deserve.
What will I learn?
In The Happy, Healthy Nurse you’ll learn how to:
- Say no without feeling guilty, and without being a jerk.
- Have more self-confidence from having the right communication tools to draw upon with difficult people.
- Have better self-esteem as a result of trusting the decisions you make.
- Communicate effectively with coworkers and family members -- even when there’s different opinions or hurt feelings.
- Remain composed during conflict.
- Come across as cool and collected when dealing with someone with a bad attitude.
- Avoid getting sucked into gossip.
- Stay calm when annoyed, hurt, or anxious.
- Manage your feelings so you don’t show you’re nervous during a disagreement.
- Communicate using calm, assertive communication, rather than a passive, aggressive, or passive-aggressive communication communication style.
- Gain the respect of others.
- Celebrate your gifts of people skills, sensitivity, and compassion! :)
How does it work?
Over an 8 week time frame, you will receive 8 videos and eight corresponding discovery worksheet packets where I teach you a new skill.
During that same 8 week time frame, you get 8 individual coaching sessions with me for 30 minutes each -- one per week throughout training.
Once per week during the 8-week training you also have the opportunity to join a group call, where all participants get to share struggles and successes in their skill-building.
What will I get with The Happy, Healthy Nurse?
Support and community so you don’t have to go it alone.
During your one-on-one coaching sessions, you’ll get my input and support. That means once every week, you'll have my undivided attention to help you learn how to use each new skill using your unique personality and strengths. The individual calls are an ideal time to ask any question you may have about your specific situation.
During the group calls, you get to gather weekly with other nurses just like you who are learning the same skills at the same time. This community is an oasis of support, encouragement, and learning from one another. There’s also Q&A time on every call, when you can directly ask me questions.
With a community and personalized support, you don’t have to do this alone!
The expertise of a professional
Get a proven skills from a Licensed Professional Counselor who has the training and experience to know what actually works, rather than mere theories about what works.
I’ve helped hundreds of people with different personalities, income levels, and personal challenges implement the exact skills you will learn in the Happy, Healthy Nurse!
Convenience — work at your own pace
Watch the weekly videos and complete the discovery worksheets at times that fit your schedule. If you can’t participate in a group call, they are recorded and can be listened to at your convenience.
The training is self-paced and you get to keep the materials forever.
You clock out from work, say goodbye to people, and get in your car to drive home. “This was a good day,” you think to yourself as you start the car. You notice how much energy you’ve got. You’re not drained. Your body is calm. You feel in control of your life, and are grateful that you get to use your knowledge to help people. You’ve been yourself throughout the day.
During your commute home, you remember that your kids might ask yet again if they can go to the midnight release of their favorite movie sequel on a school night. You breathe evenly and feel content inside. You know you’ll be able to say no without feeling guilty.
You’ve been practicing your new communication skills in a lot of situations. You take stock of all your progress and are satisfied with the new changes you see in yourself. You take more time for yourself, and are better for it. You’re learning to trust your own decisions rather than always making decisions according to what others want for you.
You’ve got great tools in your toolbox that you can use the rest of your life. You smile as you continue driving home. Life is good.
Frequently Asked Questions
Can you guarantee that the training will work for me?
- Every person that I’ve seen apply the skills in the Happy, Healthy Nurse has experienced more self-confidence, a greater ability to say “no,” and less guilt. However, if it doesn’t work for you, there’s a 60-day money-back guarantee. Try the entire course, and if you don’t see any results, just show me you did the work and I’ll refund 100% of what you paid.
- Note: The course is specifically designed for those who will follow through with the suggested homework and challenges. Because success with the training depends upon personally taking action, showing you’ve done the work is requirement to receiving a refund.
Can’t I just learn this on my own?
- Yes, probably. However, if you’re like most people, a number of problems could make you stall out.
- Problem One: Not being able to figure out what skills you need. A google search tends to yield self-help information that is: theoretical (difficult to apply to real life), bizarre, incorrect, or incomplete. The next almost-free thing is a self-help book. But which to pick amongst the hundreds of thousands? And how to apply what you read?
- Problem Two: Stalled momentum. Without a system and supportive community, most of us just don’t tend to follow through with even the best of intentions.
- Problem Three: It’s hard to have perspective about our own lives. Individual and group coaching calls are there to bring you an outside perspective to help.
- Even if one was able to figure everything out on his or her own, it seems like a long process, cobbling everything together.
What if I have to miss a call? What if I fall behind?
- The lessons are released every week, and are designed to be completed on your own schedule that week. If you can’t make the time for the group calls, no problem, they’re recorded and you can listen at a time that’s convenient for you. There are multiple times available to sign up for individual calls.
- If you fall behind, no problem, you can work at your own pace. You’ll have access to the materials for life.
Is there anyone who shouldn’t take this course?
The training is made for nurses who — although they might feel nervous or hesitant — are willing to take the steps suggested to develop communication skills that increase self-confidence.
The training is not a good fit for folks who don’t want to learn about themselves, and don’t want to put new skills into practice. It’s also probably not a good fit for those who think problems should take care of themselves.
What others are saying
People think I’ve got the world by the tail. But inside, I’m all mush. Tricia helped me learn how to let go of the things that I felt hurt by throughout the day, without exposing to my colleagues how soft I felt inside.Marissa, 27 year-old
Never would have guess that this training would result in my having more “me time,” but it did. Last week I signed up for a yoga class I never had time for! I had no idea how much time and energy saying yes to everyone had been consuming.Amy, 45 year-old
I learned a lot of things, but the thing I cherish the most is that I’m nicer to myself.Ericka, 36 year-old
I’ve always been a little depressed, and didn’t know if this training would be for me. I had no idea how much of my depression was linked to my communication with people, how I handled their moods, and how I handled their requests of me. It was all linked together with the depression, and my therapist was thrilled I found this.Jason, 54 year-old
Every now and then, life presents us with an opportunity that can affect us forever.
We can either ignore that opportunity and then wonder next week, next month, and next year, “Why do I keep having stress…. anxiety….low self-confidence? Why do I keep having the same problems with the same kinds of people?”
Or, we can see the opportunity for what it is, and respect ourselves enough to TAKE it.
You are always with yourself. “Wherever you go, there you are,” as they say. Investing in yourself is like making a deposit into your present and future self, and into your present and future relationships.
As a reminder, the program is guaranteed 100% for 60 days. I know what it’s like to consider signing up for something, wondering if it’s going to work or not. I’m offering you the guarantee so you can have the peace of mind to sign up.
Make a difference in your own life and those you care about by signing up for The Happy, Healthy Nurse. Act now while the program (worth $2400) is free for beta-testers. This is the only time I’ll offer it for free.